Healing Crystal Grids for Mind, Body and Soul Balance

Not feeling quite yourself? Maybe you’re a little frayed at the edges?

Healing crystal grids for improved health, reduced anxiety and stress. A free guide with 10 grids to help you restore balance and wellbeing.

Most likely your mind, body and soul are out of balance. Don’t worry, we have the perfect cure. Here are some beautiful ways to Balance the Mind, Body, and Soul.

Feeling out of sorts?

mind body soul balance

Surround yourself in the safety net of wonderful healing crystals.

Stone types selected for their specific purpose can offer you a whole new life by bringing calm, clarity and closure. Plus they look pretty! You can download a free guide here:


There are many grids and layouts to choose from, these 10 will predominantly help you to find calm by easing your body and mind. With all the healing grids, go to a quiet area, like your bedroom. Lie on a white cover (not a prerequisite). I like to light a candle, open a window and burn a little incense to clear the energy in the room and invite new energy in.     If you have time ground yourself, clear your mind. You can do this by simply taking your shoes off and/or walk through the incense smoke. Lie down and take a few deep breaths in through the nose and out through the mouth, focus on your stomach rising and falling with your breath. Visualise your breath filling your spine with energy and soothing light, running up the spine the spine on the inhale and down the spine on the exhale giving you a little internal massage.   When you feel ready, begin. You can use some soothing music to help set the ambience and calming mood, as well as a convenient way to time your session.  

10 Simple Crystal Healing Grids to balance the Mind, Body, and Soul

1. Amazonite Healing Grid

Amazonite healing grid

  Lying in an Amazonite Healing Net is said to aid recall of distant personal memories. This can throw light on repeating patterns of behaviour and allow identification and removal of hidden blocks that stand in the way of achieving your goals in life.

2. Seal of Solomon

Seal of Solomon healing grid

  This layout can be used whenever you need to relax, refresh the body and relieve stress.  

 3. Amethyst Healing Grid

Amethyst healing grid

    This layout can be used in any situation where physical, emotional or mental healing is required as amethyst is one of the most versatile healing stones. It is especially useful for creating a sense of calm.

4. Balancing layout

Balancing crystal healing grid

  This layout provides a good daily balance routine and restores your natural flow of energy.  

5. Carnelian Healing Grid

carnelian healing grid

  Relaxing in this layout is particularly beneficial for repairing the body, especially for helping to release deep trauma.  

6. Calming Crystal Grid

calming crystal grid

    This layout can help to soothe an emotional upset and help you focus on practical solutions to the situation    

7. The Citrine Healing Net

citrine healing grid

  Using a mixture of Citrine and Clear Quartz to increase energy levels, clear the mind and to improve communication skills and adaptability. It is a valuable net for those who are studying. But DO NOT use if you don’t need the extra energy!!  

8. Moonstone Healing Net

moonstone healing grid

  This archetypal stone of lunar energy and the feminine spirit provides a soothing layout, especially beneficial for releasing stress and tension and for easing PMT. Lie and relax in this position for about ten to fifteen minutes, after a while you should feel a soothing energy flowing through the body. Remove the moonstones and relax for a little while.  

9. Chakra Balancing

chakra balancing

The Seven Colour Chakra Layout for Chakra Balancing is one of the simplest ways to help balance the whole chakra system is to place a stone of the appropriate colour on each area.  

10. Headache Soother

amethyst headache soother

 This healing pattern helps to soothe headaches; it can help free up the blocked energies that cause headaches and so reduce the pain.   Feel like your true self again.

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DOWNLOAD FREE CRYSTAL GRID GUIDEGeneral rule: 5 to 10 minutes. Do these on a regular basis or as and when you feel you need them. Do not mix and match, you will tire out your body! Shorter sessions more frequently is better than single longer sessions. NB. Position the grounding stones first.   Afterwards place the stones in the sun for 10 minutes  or a cup of brown rice overnight to cleanse the negative energy. Do not eat the rice!   This post links up with my post “The Selfless Act of Being Selfish” illustrating how to become a better, calmer more focused you. Just 5 to 10 minutes a day to rebalance yourself, your inner energies, to find peace amidst the chaos and time to breathe in a more serene reality.   Get your free pdf now and reboost and rebalance:


Spiritual Growth

Spirituality is NOT a religion
It does not involve angels, hermits in a cave or psychics and those following a religious faith. It involves you and your own journey. It is beneficial for everyone: Greater self-confidence and self-esteem as you are true to yourself rather than the doctrines and ways imposed upon you.

It is essential for you to grow both as a person and as a creative freelancer. The two go hand in hand.

Spirituality is NOT a religion

Spiritual growth is more like a journey of discovery. Spirituality as a dimension of wellness, does not involve angels, hermits in a cave or psychics and those following a religious faith. It involves you and your own journey. It is beneficial for everyone: Greater self-confidence and self-esteem as you are true to yourself rather than the doctrines and ways imposed upon you.

Forever evolving not set in its ways established on old precepts. To progress and find fulfilment we need to have meaning and purpose in our lives, not be hemmed in and limited.

The importance of SPIRITUAL growth

Hopefully you are firtunate enough to live in a town that allows people of all faiths to follow their path of self-discovery. An open-minded and tolerant town with churches of all faiths, welcoming the methods practiced in all four corners of the world. Where you can also benefit from plenty of activities and resources to help stimulate you along this journey of self-awareness and spiritual growth.

In terms of “wellness” this dimension of wellness is about personal growth. Becoming the best you can become. Be grateful for what you have while still striving to achieve more.

Spiritual growth is a term synonymous with personal spiritual development and  developing higher awareness. The keyword being “developing”.

Developing inner guidance based on knowledge and experience, seeking new knowledge and experience by discovering and questioning beliefs – this is how we evolve. Essentially open-minded rather than most religions which are exclusive and shut out beliefs of others

How do I become spiritually strong?

Ways to build a stronger spiritual life (list to follow)

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The 4 Wellness Doctors

The doctors for happiness, movement, diet and quiet all work together to provide a healthy recipe for balanced vitality and good health. Try a dose.

The Only 4 Doctors You Will Ever Need and They are All in You!

Take charge of your personal wellness with Dr Happy, Dr Quiet, Dr Movement and Dr Diet. The 4 Wellness Doctors!

First and foremost, I cannot take the credit for the concept of the 4 Wellness Doctors, but through my training with the CHEK (Corrective Holistic Exercise Kinesiology) Institute I have applied it to my own life and I have coached numerous clients through the 4-step process.

Graham Whitehead Health

Dr Happiness

Wellness - Dr Happiness

First ask your self this: WHAT

  • makes you happy?
  • makes you feel good?
  • gives you a sense of purpose?
  • are you passionate about?
  • would be your chosen career?

These are some of the questions you can ask yourself. Your Dr Happy is always there to lead us to a life that fulfils our individual wants and needs. Furthermore, it can advise us if we are leading a life that does not maintain our core values and if this appears to be the case then every facet of our life can become a burden.

Dr Diet

We all know diet is a key part of our health and wellbeing. The quality of our food and drink we consume will affect our energy levels, emotions, physical health, mental clarity, productivity, performance, and overall health.

Wellness - Dr Diet

The interesting thing about Dr Diet is the fact that what we think is healthy isn’t and what we think isn’t healthy is. There is an awful lot of confusion out there regarding our perceptions of healthy foods. What I can tell you is that everyone’s nutritional demands will vary.

Time and time again when working with people individually I have found that when the diet is deficient there simply is not enough energy or clarity of mind to initiate and sustain the changes needed for self-healing.

Dr Quiet

This wellness doctor is the chief physician making it the most important of the 4 Doctors.

Meditation - Dr Quiet

He is responsible for energy management and recovery. One of the most common issues with Dr Quiet is sleep. People simply aren’t getting enough sleep. You can make some big improvements in your health if you get adequate amounts of sleep. I recommend getting around 8 hours of sleep per night. Timing is also crucial because our body’s circadian rhythms are related to the rising and falling off the sun. 10:00pm is an optimal time to go to sleep by as the time from
10pm – 2am is the stage in our sleep of physical repair and 2 am – 6 am is dedicated to cognitive and mental repair.

Dr Movement

Wellness - Dr Movement

Dr Movement is related to our exercise. Do you work out? Or do you work in? Working in is the body accumulating energy through activities such as yoga, tai chi, stretching, massage etc. Working out is the body expending energy, such as cycling, lifting weights, running, or playing sports.

Often people are not getting enough of the above 3 wellness doctors and as a result they do not have the energy to work out. This is because their body is short of resources. However, when these 3 Wellness Doctors mentioned are balanced, we can begin to exercise in a way where the body receives a positive response from exercise. Without the right amount of movement, suffer not only physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

I am sure you can begin to see how the 4 Doctors integrate with one another. Day in and day out I see how people’s daily challenges in life, occupation, relationships, and ambitions are heavily related to imbalances in their 4 Doctors. Most importantly, it is vital for health and wellbeing that the 4 Doctors are balanced.

Be your own wellness doctor – the only prescriptions you’ll be writing are the ones that come naturally or free: happiness, exercise, good food and meditation.

Graham Whitehead is a Personal Trainer based in Harrogate, specialising in Injury Rehabilitiation, Wellness and Sports Conditioning, Weight Loss, Holistic Lifestyle Coaching, Improving Posture, Corrective Exercise, Nutritional Coaching, and generally improving your health and lifestyle.

How to be Happy

Great self help book full of ideas and tips on how to be happy. Also a great gift if you’re looking to make someone else happier!

10 Ways to be Happier

An uplifting easy-to-read guide to remind us of just how great life is. “How to be Happy” is full of tips and inspiration on how to make us feel good about ourselves, cherish our loved ones and put the skip back in our step.

Just as “bad habits” can become part of your everyday routine, this guide shows you how to make “good habits” a part of your every day. Good habits that will ensure you are smiling instead of frowning. Here are 10 pick-me-ups for when you’re down:

  1. Music
  2. Your achievements
  3. Competition
  4. Pets
  5. A friendly ear
  6. Love
  7. Family
  8. Exercise
  9. Not getting angry
  10. Doing a good deed

See how you can use these by exploring Chapter 4 in the “How to be Happy” guide below:

Inspirational self help guide: How to be Happy, by Francesca Hepton

Listen to a free snippet here: “The Definition of Happiness”

“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim and end of human existence.” (Aristotle)

The 3 top benefits of being happy

1. It makes you healthier!

Sounds unlikely but true! Because happy people are more likely to take part inactivities that promote their health it helps in supporting the immune system. Such activities may include healthy eating habits, regular physical exercise, not smoking and spending fun time with loved ones.

2. Improved longevity

Because you are healthier you are more likely to live longer, but in addition to that, happy people tend to produce lower levels of cortisol in response to stressful situations. Increased cortisol levels can cause you to put on weight, disturb your sleeping patterns and increase your blood pressure. Happy people have a healthier and more positive disposition and are therefore less likely to get heart failure and other chronic diseases. Instead you feel fit and energised for longer.

3. Improved mental health and focus

Thanks to your lower stress levels and lack of anxiety, when you are a happy person you are a more relaxed person. This stress-free state helps your cognitive functions and allows you to concentrate and focus. Bottom line: if you are happy you perform better. This is a key factor for every successful freelance writer. Look after your wellbeing by simply adopting a positive outlook and you will be rewarded.

Inspirational self help book for women on how to be happy with yourself

This “How to Be Happy” self help book reminds us of how easy it is to be happy.

This book reveals how you can feel more alive, grateful and fulfilled in a busy world by remembering the little things that make you most human and why you look forward to every day.

In combination with other books in the “How to….” series you will learn how to become the best you in just a few steps: Self-recognition, a willingness to change and a step-by-step plan. You don’t have to fight your battles alone. This book will provide you with encouragement and support.


Nothing is stopping you smiling again, because it is even FREE. Click the image below for your FREE AUDIO version of “How to be Happy”

Or you can copy and paste the following website link to listen to this inspirational, uplifting and heartening guide:

Uplifting personal development guide: How to Be Happy

Go on, be happy!

Perfect gift.

Feel good about you, feel good about life!

How to Save Money

A concise guide on easy ways to save over £1,000 a year.

No investment. No training. No gambling.

EVEN THE BOOK IS FREE! (with Kindle unlimited). Or the Audio Version. Click on the


concise guide on how to save money audio
They say that love makes the world go round, but you’ve got to admit, money is like the grease in the cogs, it makes it go round a whole lot smoother! Try out this new guide. It’ll be sure to change the way you live and look and life forever, whilst putting money in your pocket.


Being free from financial worry or having a sense of financial stability is a fundamental part of your personal well-being.


If you want to be able to focus on your work and increase your productivity, you need to stop worrying about money. They say that the work you produce is reflective of the thoughts that inspire it. Meaning that if you are stressed you are likely to produce work that is below average and rushed. If you are more focused and producing work in a happier and calmer frame of mind, you are more likely to be producing higher quality work because you will be taking the time it needs to prepare it. When you are not worried, you can plan properly and be consistent. This in turn will generate even more earnings for you down the line.

Don’t risk your future success

Do not risk making bad decisions because you are stressed about money. Get saving the easy way. Make your pig a champion so you can become a more effective writer and freelancer today.

Get your piggy bank working for you so you can concentrate on the important stuff!

How to Save Money Written by Francesca Hepton, successful author of the How to… series.

Happy saving!! And happy creating!!


How to Get Fit with Reiki & Music

Are you ready to realize your full potential? Try this 10-minute routine steeped in ancient traditions combined with modern music. it’s revolutionary and is sure to change your life for good.

A good fitness guide makes you want to workout. A great fitness guide gives you no choice but to workout.

The ultimate motivational guide on how to get fit guide
The Ultimate Motivation Guide

This book is more than just a fitness guide. This is a way of life. A way to build your inner power in a lasting way. You may enjoy surfing the net  to discover the illusive power that will transform your body. But nothing you find will match the inspiration of this touchstone fitness guide. You will be coming back to it again and again on your journey to fitness and motivation. The secrets it provides you to excel in the area of fitness form just one aspect. It is also profoundly informative on the subjects of health and personal happiness. Curious? Get a sample of the daily 10-minute routine that will change the way you exercise forever:

Guaranteed focus and success

“How to Get Fit with Reiki and Music” provides motivational combination to give your training and fitness regime guaranteed focus and success.  Aside from providing you with a balanced, focused and motivated mindset, the symbiosis of Reiki and music gives you that extra push. The force from within you never thought you had. Follow the 10 minute routine for the ultimate focus in your fitness practice:

Movement is extremely important for desk-bound professionals like writers. Find your motivation to get and stay healthy with this unique and inspirational motivation guide.

Energy Work

Through your Energy Work/Reiki you will master the discipline of self-control promoting the awareness of your own potential and usage of energy. It not only helps to build up bodily reserves of strength and resistance, and to control and cure disorders, but also has the ability to promote vitality, rejuvenate the body and stimulate intelligence.

  • Grounding
  • Centering
  • Energizing

Ancient methods in modern times

Based on the principles of Tendai Buddhism and Taoism for meditation and internal energy cultivation, Reiki was initially taught as an aid in self-healing. As such it can help in strengthening the body, harmonizing your emotions and calming your mind.  The purpose of the daily energy exercises is to activate, circulate, ground and channel energy also known as qi.  Qi is the energy inherent in all things. When practiced every day for just 10 minutes, Reiki can become a powerful tool for transformation and self cultivation. Many people who practice Reiki have reported remarkable changes in their overall health and energy levels as well as improved self-esteem and emotional outlook. Reiki is simple and easy to learn and can be practiced anywhere as it requires no equipment and just enough space to sit down in.

Energy Exercises Guide - a 10-minute routine to double your energy reserves, give you focus and help you find calm. With step-by-step instructions and illustrations.

Every workout is a breakthrough

Whether you are going through a physiotherapy program, training for a marathon or event or striving to improve your health and physique, this ingenious combination will help you get rid of bad habits, break behavioral patterns leading to lethargy and failure, and spur you on to set new benchmarks in your physical abilities. Through a few easy-to-learn techniques, this guide will give you the drive to get up a challenging hill. This hill can be both physical and psychological. This facilitating combo will support you from the start when you are defining your goals and planning out your schedule, right through to staying motivated.

The power of music

“There is a charm: a power that sways the breast Bids every passion, revel or be still, Inspires with rage or all your cares dissolves, Can sooth distraction and almost despair – That power is music”. – Armstrong, 1774

There is no denying the motivational power of music

  • Transporter of emotions
  • Fuel to your soul
  • Inspiration for dreams

Reiki and music give you wings

ultimate motivation guide

Let’s not forget to mention the indisputable power of music as  motivator. According to Costas Karageorghis, PhD, an associate professor of sport psychology at Brunel University, the BPM in music can also stimulate or calm athletes prior to competition, and help synchronize their movements with an optimal tempo. This guide will help you compile playlists that are best suited to you. To maximize your performance. Keep you motivated and happy all the way. Your personal attributes as well as the type of exercise you are doing are all taken into consideration.

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All the hard work has been done for you.

All you have to do is get changed and turn the music up!

Through the symbiosis of Reiki and music, you will find that magic “kick” to propel you around the track or keep you pedaling up the hill. You will be able to dig deep down inside you to your “center of energy” as you disassociate from the physical limitations of your body and soar to mind-blowing lengths.


“An awesome, inspiring book and fab idea to combine the 2 tools of reiki and music to achieve what you want.” – Martha

“I just wanted to write to say how enlightening your guide has been. I have found it really easy to follow and beautifully explained and though it was written as a guide to getting fit I have found so much wisdom in your chapter on vibrations, wisdom that has really resonated with me in my particular situation with my 14 year marriage to a negatively charged selfish man. Thank you!” – Stacey

“The book is exactly right for helping people through life crises. The Reiki really helps you to focus. I thought I had a lot of  willpower, I recently completed a 5k run for charity, but then I seemed to lose my drive. I found this guide at just the right time. Everything is so much easier now.” – Alex

Available as paperback, Kindle and audio book

The new way to get fit - channel your chi and pump up the volume!! Get ready to be motivated!

Are you ready to realise your potential? Try the 10-minute routine it will help you work harder for longer and improve your life.

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Benefits of Aloe Vera for You as a Healthy Writer

This wonder medicine plant is an essential part of every writer’s Pencil Case of Success!
Forget all binge-watching, binge-eating off-days, those are a thing of the past once you add aloe to your daily diet. It boosts your health, energy levels and concentration.
Discover what other benefits this miracle plant has in store for you.

Why take aloe vera? As a freelance writer your energy resources are depleted and pulled in every direction. In your writing, running your business and staying motivated. Drink aloe and stay on tops of your work. Reap the benefits. Why not?

When we find something amazing, human tendency is to either hide it away to covet it just for ourselves or to shout it from the roof tops and share its beauty so that all may reap its rewards. Aloe Vera has been the victim of both. So let’s get to the root of the matter and explore why creative freelancers should be indulging in what has been dubbed the miracle Medicine Plant.

Queen Nefertiti
Queen Nefertiti used aloe vera to enhance her beauty

A rich past

The aloe plant was left to wilt in the dark for many a decade after its initial heyday when it was used by the Egyptians in their renowned beauty regimes and in their mummification rituals. Right up until the 18th and 19th century it was still one of the most popular over-the-counter remedies until, more recently, it was pushed into the darkness by conventional medicines, i.e. more “orthodox” options. Mainstream pill-popping took over as herbal medicine spiralled in decline.

But did Aloe really ever go? It uses are so vast and the people who use it are so diverse, there was no chance of keeping this wondrous plant out of the light for long. It never really disappeared… it is too powerful for that!

Weird and wonderful uses

1. To ward off evil
Aloe vera is used to give spiritual baths to block and ward off evil spirits. This method is  observed in many spiritual belief systems across the world. The common consensus is that Aloe vera has the ability to block evil spirits.

2. To prolong beauty
This use should come as no surprise no wonder it is so powerful considering the ancient civilization of Egypt used it to preserves the integrity of the physical body during life and death. Aloe vera keeps the skin looking fresh for the living. It contains properties that maintains the collagen of the skin and prevents the elasticity from becoming loose. It was one of the ingredients in embalming fluid.

3. Re-calibrate our frequency system
Thank to its electrolytic properties it helps the cells that are experiencing blockages or that are not communicating with each other. This is because the plant contains electrolyte minerals, such as magnesium, potassium, calcium and sodium, which support important physiological processes resulting from our nervous and cardiac systems. A marvelous boost to your energy levels and capacity to think clearly.

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Benefits of Aloe Vera

Aside from its use in spiritual and mummification rituals, there are real facts to support this miracle plant’s health benefits: (source PubMed)

  1. Helps the Immune System
  2. Helps Burns, Scars, Cuts and Hair
  3. Has Anti-Inflammatory Properties
  4. Improves Digestion and Detoxifies the Body
  5. Aloe Vera is Anti-bacterial, Anti-septic, Anti-fungal and Anti-viral
  6. Aloe Vera is an Adaptogen
  7. Helps Constipation
  8. Improves Circulation and Cardiovascular Health
  9. Protects the Kidneys
  10. Helps against Diabetes
  11. Facilitates Weight Loss
  12. Helps With Candida Overgrowth
  13. Slows the Growth of Cancer Tumors
  14. Increases Energy Levels
  15. Helps against Ulcers, Crohn’s Disease and IBS (Irritable Bowel Sydrome)

Yes it is a long list! And it is not exhaustive.  Thanks to recent research and case studies, Aloe is back in its full glory; it is even growing in importance in the mainstream medical branch with its inclusion in a CAM report, which examines alternative and complementary medicine and determines how providers of such therapies and remedies, such as herbal medicine, can be regulated.

Get hooked on aloe

I would highly recommend that you somehow incorporate this plant into your diet. Either as a quick shot in the morning, added to your smoothie or in capsule form. the benefits for a creative mind to have all that added energy is priceless. Because all your guns are firing at 100% you are able to focus with amazing clarity and get to business without distractions or fatigue getting in the way.

In conclusion, if you are serious about your health and you are serious about accomplishing your goals, drink aloe vera. If nothing else, try it for 1 week. After that you will never want to be without it.

The Aloe plant has a rich and varied past, and I believe its future is likely to be equally as fruitful.

If you are interested in finding out more or sampling some products, visit the Forever Living Products site where you can be assured of sustainably grown plants, and start your journey to good health today.

Benefits of Meditation

Meditation isn’t just for tree-huggers and hippies, it is for anyone who seeks peace of mind, boundless energy and reuced anxiety… and much, much more. Read on to find out how you can add some simple techniques to your your everyday routine.

The Benefits of Meditation & Why You Should Meditate

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Graham Whitehead Health

Meditation is something I have been doing and coaching people regularly for 4 years now, so today I wanted to share some of the benefits with you.

Benefits of meditation
You can meditate anywhere

A lot of people consider it to be airy-fairy hocus pocus for long-haired hippies that has no benefit. What I can tell you is that it was good enough for Arnold Schwarzenegger who meditates regularly (the Meditator not Terminator!).

Furthermore, take a look at some of the most successful business people in the world. In the Book, Tool of Titans by Tim Ferris he interviews and analyses world-class performers, icons, and billionaires. 80% OF THE PEOPLE INTERVIEWED IN THIS BOOK WERE REGULAR MEDITATORS.

What are the benefits?

  • Meditation improves sleep
  • Meditation reduces levels of stress hormone (cortisol)
  • Meditation improves energy levels
  • Meditation helps you think clearer to help identify your vision
  • Meditation is great for weight/fat loss due to the fact that you become more insulin sensitive and your level of stress hormones reduce
  • Meditation is a great anti-ageing practice
  • Prevents you from making poor decisions
  • Improves your self-awareness
  • Increases oxygen intake

Benefits of meditation
Meditation is for everyone

There are many ways to meditate but you can choose to start off with this basic approach below. Once you have done this a number of times you may alter or find a more effective method that works best for YOU.

  • Begin with 10 minutes twice a day, but know the more often you do it the more benefit you will get.
  • Download some relaxing music, a guided meditation from YouTube or you use any of the meditation apps or podcasts. Some people don’t need any music. You are better downloading the music or guided meditation so you do not get disturbed while meditating. Ensure your phone is on airplane mode.
  • Lying down or sit up straight while listening to peaceful music or guided meditation take a deep diaphragmatic breath in as your belly expands, and then exhale out through the mouth. Repeat this for 10 minutes.

Check out a video from Graham Whitehead to ensure you are breathing the correct way:

Breathing Technique Video  from Graham Whitehead who also recommends checking out the book ‘Meditation for Dummies’ as it offers you some simple and easily applicable practices to begin with.

Take a break from life’s chaos, you’ll soon reap the benefits and never want to stop!

How to Heal from Past Relationships

Dr Vanessa Dias deals with a prolific but rarely properly handled subject.

Dr Vanessa Dias deals with a prolific but rarely properly handled subject. When we are “released’ into the world, we are not fully aware of how others can affect us for the long term. All relationships impact on us at a cellular level and I believe her suggestion to get to the root of the pain is sound advice. Do not run away from your pain. You need to heal. First accept it, acknowledge the pain and then search remedies in a holistic approach such as through a combination of yoga, crystal healing, meditation, you time and positive self-affirmations.

5 Habits for Personal Growth

Dare to make a difference by adopting just 5 new attitudes for 24 hours. Experience the power of inner peace and a pure positivity. Release your inner – peaceful – warrior.

Spiritual Growth: When I Change, the World Changes

Are you ready for a 24-hour challenge that will change your life forever. These 5 habits for personal growth are the foundation to a happier life.

I had arrived on my own. The last thing I was feeling was adventurous. The Queen Suite at the Cedar Court Hotel, Harrogate was dotted with prospective listeners, certainly not enough to afford a secure hiding place where I could sneak in unnoticed to listen to:

Dare to Make a Difference

an experiential talk by Jane Kay, Brahma Kumaris

My intentions may have been narrow-minded, to while away some time, but the results were mind blowing.

The genteel speaker’s words were thought-provoking and I rose to her personal challenges (see below). When the rickety music player began emitting some poor quality Hindu music I felt sure that the group meditation at the end would be more of a moment for further reflection and relaxation. I did not expect to see the flood of light emanate from Jane Kay to fill the room… was it some kind of technological trickery or an optical illusion? Perhaps I could explain it away with the fact that I was focusing on the centre of her forehead as instructed thereby de-focussing my peripheral vision. Yes, my logical ego-lead head had managed to explain away the phenomenon, but it was stumped when the room was then filled with a purple haze. True wondrous purple everywhere I looked.

Now I was ready to take the dare to change myself, to change the world. Are you?

1) Retain a sense of peace

Regardless of what situation you are confronted with, you should try to retain an intrinsic sense of internal peace. After all, we only get upset or annoyed when others don’t do things the way that we would… just let go of this need for control. Example: If your child does not tidy his/her room, is it worth you loosing your temper? You and the household will suffer and the room will be untidy again next week. Don’t let things bother you; experience how peace will reign.

The challenge is not to complain or criticise for 24 hours

2) Love everyone and everything

This is a hard one. You may meet people you really do not feel any love for, so here is how you manage this challenge: see everybody as a sunflower. Everyone out there is like me and you. We are all doing what we can to get on in life, we’re all different, but all the same too.  Do not judge, you only see a snapshot of peoples’ lives not the whole picture. Like a dirty river does not tell you about the clear bubbling spring and the beautiful lush green landscapes it  has carved through before you now see it muddied and littered.  Remember: be open-minded, see the sunflowers instead of just a limited snapshot.

spiritual growth through happiness

3) Be happy all the time

You may already know that this is a challenge. Perhaps if you considered happiness to be more of a choice rather than an accidental emotion you might think differently. If you have a blue balloon to represent your sad emotions and a red balloon to represent your happy emotions and put an equal amount of effort into blowing them up, they would float and last the same, but if you were to put more effort into keeping the blue balloon afloat with negative thoughts the red balloon of happiness would deflate through neglect. Putting more effort into your red happiness balloon will make it soar and your blue balloon of misery will effortlessly shrink and drop. Keep your red balloons full!

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4) Have pure positive thoughts for others

This may not be as straightforward as the other challenges. Still its message is straightforward: do not be jealous or covet what others have. Do not rob them of their time. Everyone in life has their time to shine. Maybe you have already had yours, maybe it is yet to come. If you see someone else basking in the glorious light of success (whatever form that may be) do not deprive them of this time to be happy and fulfilled, do not wish it were you and think ill of them as a result. Rejoice with them. Be happy for them. Have pure and positive thoughts. Enjoy your time when it comes – and when it does, you will want others to join in with you, not to think you undeserving. Share in the positivity.

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5) Pursue a spiritual path, make wisdom part of your life

I do not think this challenge is meant to be religious, well I certainly do not take it that way as I do not follow a religious faith. Spiritual growth is more about expanding your horizons, letting go of doctrines, habits and ways of thinking that may have been thrown upon you by society or your parents. Let go of this imposed resistance. Let go of this stubbornness that is rooted in your egocentric tendencies. Free yourself from prejudicial traditions and habits that are stopping you from experiencing life as you would like to naturally. Follow the instinct from your “second” brain, your gut instinct. Let go of your ego. Let go of resistance. Embrace all the peace, love, happiness, purity and positivity these 5 “dares” will open up to you and become a force to be reckoned with.

Try these 5 Dares for just 24 hours, then maybe  for couple of days because you notice how good you feel, then make them part of your life – you may be surprised at how it unnerves others as you can no longer be manipulated.

Do you dare to challenge your world?