How to Heal from Past Relationships

Dr Vanessa Dias deals with a prolific but rarely properly handled subject.

Dr Vanessa Dias deals with a prolific but rarely properly handled subject. When we are “released’ into the world, we are not fully aware of how others can affect us for the long term. All relationships impact on us at a cellular level and I believe her suggestion to get to the root of the pain is sound advice. Do not run away from your pain. You need to heal. First accept it, acknowledge the pain and then search remedies in a holistic approach such as through a combination of yoga, crystal healing, meditation, you time and positive self-affirmations.

5 Habits for Personal Growth

Dare to make a difference by adopting just 5 new attitudes for 24 hours. Experience the power of inner peace and a pure positivity. Release your inner – peaceful – warrior.

Spiritual Growth: When I Change, the World Changes

Are you ready for a 24-hour challenge that will change your life forever. These 5 habits for personal growth are the foundation to a happier life.

I had arrived on my own. The last thing I was feeling was adventurous. The Queen Suite at the Cedar Court Hotel, Harrogate was dotted with prospective listeners, certainly not enough to afford a secure hiding place where I could sneak in unnoticed to listen to:

Dare to Make a Difference

an experiential talk by Jane Kay, Brahma Kumaris

My intentions may have been narrow-minded, to while away some time, but the results were mind blowing.

The genteel speaker’s words were thought-provoking and I rose to her personal challenges (see below). When the rickety music player began emitting some poor quality Hindu music I felt sure that the group meditation at the end would be more of a moment for further reflection and relaxation. I did not expect to see the flood of light emanate from Jane Kay to fill the room… was it some kind of technological trickery or an optical illusion? Perhaps I could explain it away with the fact that I was focusing on the centre of her forehead as instructed thereby de-focussing my peripheral vision. Yes, my logical ego-lead head had managed to explain away the phenomenon, but it was stumped when the room was then filled with a purple haze. True wondrous purple everywhere I looked.

Now I was ready to take the dare to change myself, to change the world. Are you?

1) Retain a sense of peace

Regardless of what situation you are confronted with, you should try to retain an intrinsic sense of internal peace. After all, we only get upset or annoyed when others don’t do things the way that we would… just let go of this need for control. Example: If your child does not tidy his/her room, is it worth you loosing your temper? You and the household will suffer and the room will be untidy again next week. Don’t let things bother you; experience how peace will reign.

The challenge is not to complain or criticise for 24 hours

2) Love everyone and everything

This is a hard one. You may meet people you really do not feel any love for, so here is how you manage this challenge: see everybody as a sunflower. Everyone out there is like me and you. We are all doing what we can to get on in life, we’re all different, but all the same too.  Do not judge, you only see a snapshot of peoples’ lives not the whole picture. Like a dirty river does not tell you about the clear bubbling spring and the beautiful lush green landscapes it  has carved through before you now see it muddied and littered.  Remember: be open-minded, see the sunflowers instead of just a limited snapshot.

spiritual growth through happiness

3) Be happy all the time

You may already know that this is a challenge. Perhaps if you considered happiness to be more of a choice rather than an accidental emotion you might think differently. If you have a blue balloon to represent your sad emotions and a red balloon to represent your happy emotions and put an equal amount of effort into blowing them up, they would float and last the same, but if you were to put more effort into keeping the blue balloon afloat with negative thoughts the red balloon of happiness would deflate through neglect. Putting more effort into your red happiness balloon will make it soar and your blue balloon of misery will effortlessly shrink and drop. Keep your red balloons full!

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4) Have pure positive thoughts for others

This may not be as straightforward as the other challenges. Still its message is straightforward: do not be jealous or covet what others have. Do not rob them of their time. Everyone in life has their time to shine. Maybe you have already had yours, maybe it is yet to come. If you see someone else basking in the glorious light of success (whatever form that may be) do not deprive them of this time to be happy and fulfilled, do not wish it were you and think ill of them as a result. Rejoice with them. Be happy for them. Have pure and positive thoughts. Enjoy your time when it comes – and when it does, you will want others to join in with you, not to think you undeserving. Share in the positivity.

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5) Pursue a spiritual path, make wisdom part of your life

I do not think this challenge is meant to be religious, well I certainly do not take it that way as I do not follow a religious faith. Spiritual growth is more about expanding your horizons, letting go of doctrines, habits and ways of thinking that may have been thrown upon you by society or your parents. Let go of this imposed resistance. Let go of this stubbornness that is rooted in your egocentric tendencies. Free yourself from prejudicial traditions and habits that are stopping you from experiencing life as you would like to naturally. Follow the instinct from your “second” brain, your gut instinct. Let go of your ego. Let go of resistance. Embrace all the peace, love, happiness, purity and positivity these 5 “dares” will open up to you and become a force to be reckoned with.

Try these 5 Dares for just 24 hours, then maybe  for couple of days because you notice how good you feel, then make them part of your life – you may be surprised at how it unnerves others as you can no longer be manipulated.

Do you dare to challenge your world?

How to Become More Creative – an Unusual Hack

In a sedentary, desk-bound job? Feeling sluggish? Give your mind and body a service with this amazing massage technique.
It will get everything flowing again, awaken your kundalini and let the creativity pour through your meridians onto your page.
Get your creative juices flowing + feel revitalised!

For unlimited creativity and a boost to your physical wellbeing

What is this great secret weapon to unlock the doors of creativity? A Lymphatic massage. It may well be the least sexy massage name ever for perhaps one of the best massages ever.

A massage technique that is not only good for your health but also releases your creativity. Learn how you become more creative when your body is in balance and your energy is flowing freely.

Just what is lymphatic drainage and its benefits?

Before I dive into the wonders of a lymphatic drainage massage, maybe I need to enlighten you of what your lymphatic system is just in case you have never  heard of this alternative health treatment before… after reading this you will definitely be heading out to your nearest lymphatic drainage therapist.

What is our lymphatic system?

The white vessels in our body circulate lymph, a clear fluid that flows from our lymph nodes, through out our body. As you can see from the diagram there is a high concentration of nodes around our throat, armpits, abdominal  and groin area. These nodes filter out and stop infection and other “invading” bodies – a bit like a waste filtration system. Lymph is to our lymphatic system what blood is to our circulatory system. While our circulatory system has the heart to pump and keep it moving and flowing… the lymphatic system depends on your skeletal muscular system moving it through your joints. If the lymph is not flowing freely then our system will block up with excess fluid and contamination (e.g. excess protein, debris, cells, etc). These blockages could cause swelling and become a breeding ground for infection.

So you can see why it is important for your lymphatic system to be flowing freely.

What a lymphatic drainage massage involves:

A certified massage therapist will apply a series of gentle, rhythmic tapping on your lymph nodes to stimulate them to open and drain. The massaging may be done by hand as well as by using a little suction cup that actually draws out the lymph. The treatment is very comfortable and is not invasive at all – no hose pipes attached to dubious areas as may have been envisaged by some of you! A typical session will involve drainage of the head, neck, abdomen and your extremities and will last anywhere from one hour to 90 minutes.  It is a completely non-invasive “massage” consisting of gentle stimulation in the areas of your lymphatic glands.

Don’t expect to be kneaded and pounded and stretched, this is a very gentle process involving tapping to stimulate the nodes and smoothing of the skin to get the lymph fluid moving.

rebalance with a lymphatic massage

The effects of a lymphatic massage

If you are in a sedentary job like me, maybe not exercising enough, you may feel “sluggish” and want to give your body a bit of an MOT. It is also great for getting your immune system working properly, reducing water retention (don’t expect your cellulite to disappear overnight!) and improve your metabolism. Plus it is a great way to DETOX.

Here are the astonishing “effects” I experience after just one treatment:

Day 1 – A very relaxing treatment, during which I felt my body tingling and literally felt the lymph fluid starting to circulate. A little tired in the evening but generally just relaxed. Increased intake of water. Didn’t want “unhealthy” foods or wine.

Day 2 – A pounding headache. Obviously the toxins that had been released through the movement of my lymph fluid were on the move. I also felt tired and emotional (I cried at Charlie and the Chocolate Factory!!) Continued increased intake of fluid and did not want snack food.

Day 3 – Overrun by sheer fatigue. Do not plan anything strenuous the days after your massage – you just want to sleep. It can hit you any time soon after. Plus a little nauseous.

Day 4 – Not really tired anymore, still hungry for good food and thirsty. Visibly improved complexion.

Day 5 – A miracle. Everything seems easy. Exercise is easy. Concentrating is easy. No sense of fatigue. Like a teenager again without the angst!

Unstoppable Creativity

Day 6 to Day 14 – A fortnight of mad unstoppable creativity and energy. A wrote a book, I made videos and audios, woke early, started exercising properly again, didn’t feel tired.

I am not sure if everyone experiences a flood of creativity, but I am sure it is related to my lymphatic massage. Clearing the toxins out of the body really peps you up, so you are working at 100%.

An amazing experience I would recommend to anyone:

I went for 3 sessions and would say you need at least 2 to ensure it works. You can also help yourself by exercising regularly, even jumping up and down helps!, or trying some DIY drainage techniques.

Keep your engine well serviced. Go for a body MOT and be ready for instant rejuvenation, increased productivity and endless creativity!

The Mental & Emotional Benefits of Dancing

Invigorating Salsa nights – Dancing is essential to inner happiness and harmony and salsa offers all the magic and intense passion life can offer.

Let’s Salsa!

What are the Mental & Emotional Benefits of Dancing?

You'll be glad to hear this I'm sure! Dancing is great for your emotional + mental health. It literally keeps you on your toes, improves your focus, memory, happiness and health - plus it's fun! Go on, get dancing, and get writing!

Incredible as it may sound dancing improves your body as much mentally as it does physically – and maybe even more.The benefits and potential of  dancing (in particular dancing with a partner, such as in Salsa) for general health, as a complementary treatment for diseases, anti-aging and social wellbeing, have being recognized by recent research. Salsa is is an art of living that pursues  a healthy, harmonious and happy life. Here are some of the benefits of Salsa from different perspectives:

First of all as a fitness routine: It is considered a moderate intensity, low impact, aerobic exercise –  although as some of us know it can also be high-impact and very energetic! It is not restricted by age, sex, space or time. Many studies show regular Salsa  promotes general health including cardio-respiratory and musculoskeletal function, posture control and the immune system.

Dancing increases your happiness. One of the many psychological benefits of aerobic exercises, such as dancing, is that of helping a person to feel happy and remain in a positive mood.

Not only does dancing keep you fit, it has other key benefits that are not so obvious, which may not have thought of:

1. Increased happiness

Is it the release of endorphins or simple fun? Experts around the world prove that dancing lowers levels of stress hormones and significantly lowers levels of depression. Dancing is essential to inner happiness and harmony and salsa if one form of dance that offers all the magic and intense passion life can offer.

One of the many psychological benefits of aerobic exercises is that of helping a person to feel happy and remain in a positive mood. As a freelance writer or blogger you need to be prepared to face different difficulties in your field of work often on your own. Dancing can help you to handle the stress and possible depression that comes along with the lack of results, rejections from agents and just keeping your spirits up to keep you motivated

Invigorating Salsa nights are hosted all over the world. Find one in your town!

2. Improved mental health

Secondly, dancing is a wonderful way to improve your mental health and counteract the onset of depression. Depression affects about 121 million people worldwide. Finding an affordable, non-intrusive and effective treatment is an absolute must for society, not just on an individual level but also on a macro level where we are seeing depression impacting on productivity and as a springboard to further illnesses.

What better way to combat these effects than dancing!? And this is what dancing offers as a promoter of mental health:

  • supports your sense of empowerment, accomplishment and personal identity
  • provides a spontaneous activity
  • an opportunity to repeat skills previously learnt
  • a form of non-verbal expression
  • motivation to participate – encouraging autonomy and taking initiative
  • medium for preserving intellectual and physical functions without being confronted by the fear of negative feelings
  • stimulates communication with others
  • offers a way to share experiences
  • a wonderful way to make and maintain meaningful contact with others
  • social interaction, combating loneliness and isolation
How dancing improves your mental health. If you're a freelance creative, you need extra support in ensuring your emotional and mental health do not burn out quickly. Dancing is a great way to feel positive and refill your creative well.great way to

Naturally dancing comes with so many other benefits like improved cardiovascular function, increased body strength, improved balance and posture, enhanced agility and coordination, as well as boosting your self esteem and confidence. And besides – it’s a great excuse to get away from your desk! You will really shift your vibrations to a whole other level and refill your well of creativity!

3. Improved concentration

Thirdly as a meditation, the rhythmic motion guided by focusing your mind leads you, in the physical sense, into a meditative state known as  “moving meditation”. Therefore, just like any other form of meditation, this will benefit the parasympathetic nerve system which helps reduce stress and improve concentration. Furthermore, Research shows that meditation soothes the mind, enhances concentration. You are essentially giving your brain a rest from all of its usual worrying thoughts (just like when you practice mindfulness). Consequently, you are silencing the chatter of your mind. However, you are also simultaneously engaging your brain into thinking. it has to think about the sequence of steps, a particular dance routine, signs from your partners and so on. all this keeps the brain alert and uses parts of your brain you normally would not use, let’s say if you were watching TV!

Learn how salsa improves your concentration as an active form of meditation in movement!

Add to the above the fact that cardio exercise helps you sleep better and because you’re having so much fun dancing your stress levels are lowered, this is a fantastic way to improve your mental agility! Not to mention your physical agility!

4. An antidote to aging

Move it or lose it!

Finally, dancing improves brain function on a variety of levels. Two recent studies in the U.S show how different types of practice allow dancers to achieve peak performance. This is done by combining cerebral and cognitive thought processes with muscle memory and proprioception held in the cerebellum. Through regular exercise that incorporates some type of dance at least once a week anyone can maximize their brain function.

Because practicing a dance like the salsa involves both the body and the mind it offers both physiological and psychological benefits. Studies have shown that the psychological benefits include improvements in:

  • confidence
  • quality of life
  • motivation
  • clarity
  • mood
  • mental health disorders
  • anxiety
  • depression
  • and even phobias.
Salsa as an antidote to aging. Anything that makes you happy, gets you moving and initiates social interaction helps counter the effects of aging and dancing offers all three of these elements!

Learning salsa requires you to focus attention and be fully present in the moment, much like the practice of yoga. This makes Salsa unique in that you must maintain constant awareness and connection with your partner.
This mindful focus can switch off the negative thought patterns associated with stress and depression. In a related study, dancing Salsa reduced cortisol, the hormone associated with stress.

There is growing evidence to shows that dancing can help slow down the aging process. Studies show that people who dance on a regular basis have a significantly higher number of self-renewal cells! Other evidence indicates that dancing may be an effective, fun and non-invasive method for maintaining bone mineral density in postmenopausal women. As a result, the movement involved can positively impact musculoskeletal strength. Salsa even more than other styles of dance may afford greater effectiveness in enhancing cognitive function as a result of itsinterdependent mind-body connection. You cannot switch off when you dance the Salsa!!

Lifestyle choices – a social affair

Dancing with a partner to music has more positive effects than dancing alone or moving with a partner without music. This is backed up by research, which also suggests that freestyle partner dancing may offer the best benefit of all.

In conclusion you can see that Salsa (dancing)

  • is a moderate aerobic exercise
  • trains agility and mobility
  • involves learning and memorizing new skills and movement patterns
  • includes training in sustained attention-focus, shifting, and multi-tasking
  • and is even a form of meditative and relaxation training

Another bonus dancing offers you is the opportunity to dedicate more time to leisure activities and social interaction.

So get your salsa shoes on and step up to the beat of well-being!

Thanks to Salseros LA for inspiring this article.